Destiny is in choices

Hi there, welcome to the first session of Ask Coach Carol for 2015. Hoping you have all had a good rest and are ready to make 2015 a great year!

To those who wrote Matric and passed, well done. 12 years of schooling are now over and you are now going to be taking the first steps towards adulthood.

If you didn’t pass, make 2015 count and put in the extra effort to get your Matric this year. And remember, even though matric is important and something you need to have, it does not define you as a person. For whatever the reason you did not pass, now is not the time to make excuses, it’s the time to take a good look at the decisions you made last year and make better ones for 2015 so that you too can pass.

Okay, I’ll take my Mom hat off now…

Who am I and what do I do? I’m Carol Gerber a registered Coach & Mentor. I work with people who are not interested in the status quo and want to move their lives to another level whether it is in career choice, starting a business or growing themselves as an individual. I hope that this year as I share concepts of personal growth with you, that this show will help you in your journey to become your authentic self.

This month’s theme is all about it being your time. To be honest when I sat down to put today’s show together I wasn’t quite sure what I was going to talk about and while doing some work I came across this quote which for me is very powerful. It’s a quote of Ralph Waldo Emerson and goes like this “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

What does this mean? Destiny is in choices

Now that it’s January, you will find so much on Social Media and the internet in general that relates to Goal setting and action planning, articles about making changes, making 2015 a success and so much more.

These are all important things and we spoke last year about goal setting. However, I would like you to take the time to think about who is it you want to be one day. What do you want to stand for? There is another quote whose origin I can’t quite remember and it goes like this: “ If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything”.

So in actual fact what we are looking at today is the making of choices. What are your values and principles that are non-negotiable? What do you want to be known for one day? Are you will to make the right choices, even when it is difficult, to stand by what you want to create for yourself.

The thing is, if you don’t decide who you want to be or what it is you want to do with your life so that it counts for something, I can guarantee you that someone else will make that decision for you.

In reality, answering these questions can be very difficult when you are younger and don’t have the experience or knowledge and of course sometimes your reality doesn’t seem to allow you to explore your options.

While this may be true, there are a few things you can do for yourself:

  1. Find a mentor, someone you can look to for guidance who has a passion for helping youth develop themselves. This can be one-to-one or n the group context. A church youth group is often a good place to start looking.
  2. Re-visit your values. Are you very sure what they are and are you actually using them in your decision making?
  3. Write down your big picture and then research ways to make this work. An example: My bigger picture is to work with people so that they can live lives of contentment. How do I do this, through the process of coaching and more specifically by helping people make career choices & changes, getting to know themselves better and creating a safe space where they can explore who they are and become who they are destined to be.

Let me emphasise that this is not about a career choice. It’s about your character and the legacy you want to leave one day.

Even if for now you only have a vague idea. That’s fine. Make choices based on that ideal. With time and experience you’ll be able to fine tune what you believe is the ideal you, your authentic self so to speak.

Are you going to make mistakes along the way? Probably, see them as opportunities to learn and best of all not to repeat the same mistake. Take every opportunity that comes your way. You never know where one rung on the ladder may lead you.

Wishing you all a great week further and remember if you want to be in touch I’m on both Facebook and Twitter with identical handles @CarolGerberRDC

Love and light.



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