Hi there, welcome to #AskCoachCarol, a program created to provide a space for you, the youth of SA to reflect and gain insight into life issues you may be dealing with. My name is Carol Gerber; I am a registered Coach & Mentor in Private practice. I call myself the Possibilities Coach because my focus is always on taking the now, re-looking at the perspective and broadening the awareness of possibilities.
Today I thought it might be a good idea to chat about Attitude. It’s almost 2015 and chances are you are either setting new goals or find yourself completely out of your comfort zone having to now move out into the world to study or find work. It is now more than ever that your general attitude is either going to help or harm you.
That said I’d like to share 3 of my most favourite quotes that relate to attitude:
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” Thomas Jefferson
Your attitude, not your aptitude will determine your altitude.” Zig Zigla
“The longer I live the more I realise the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than success, than what other people think, say or do. It will make or break a company, church, family or country. The remarkable thing is that we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for the day. We cannot change our past…or that people with act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that live is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is for you….we are in charge of our attitudes.” Charles Swindoll
Inevitably we’ve all had our parents at some stage tell us to drop the attitude. I know I’ve done this with my 9 year old. If you look at that particular instant and are honest with yourself the attitude your parent was talking about was you being sulky or belligerent, just generally oppositional. Now growing up is difficult and to quote my daughter “ Why do adults always get their way?” is probably why the “attitude” is how we react to situations that frustrate us.
So where am I really going with this….I’m not saying, don’t voice your opinion. What I’m saying is be aware of how you do it. Take the context into consideration. Is it really the right time or can it wait until everyone is calmer?
Attitude is one of the key factors which play a role in you being employed. It doesn’t matter what the work is. Whether it is flipping burgers or working for free at an NPO. If you approach every day with the attitude of being the best you can be, being open to do that little extra, it will be noticed.
Your success in life is directly dependant on your attitude towards the people around you, how you approach even the most disliked tasks, how you in general present yourself to the world.
This doesn’t mean a fake jovialness or kow-towing. People can pick this up a mile away. It’s about your general can do attitude. It’s about your willingness to learn, to take direction. Yes, that old man who is now your supervisor might be cantankerous, however, show him you want to learn & he may well be the best mentor you will ever have.
Can’t find work, approach a NPO that is in the field of work you are interested in and offer to work for free. This provides experience and shows the person looking at your CV that you can make a plan.
And of course, there are times that you simply have to do what you have to do for example take part in the schools athletics day when you would rather stab yourself in the eye with a spoon…we’ve all been there…participate with grace, without complaints and you will find the entire process so much easier to deal with.
You see, with the right attitude you are able to maintain a positive energy. A negative attitude will simply drain not only your energy, those around you as well. In time people get to know those with a bad attitude and stay away.
Something to remember, sometimes people with a so called bad attitude are actually hiding their fear of rejection. Be kind and you may be able to help that person change their attitude to.
Is it always going to be easy. Of course not, however, if you make having a good attitude a principle to live by you will get far.
Thank you for listening today. As always, if you have any questions you are more than welcome to contact me via Twitter, my twitter handle is @CarolGerberRDC.
Wishing you all a joyous and peaceful festive season. I’m going to be taking some time out and will be back on the 8th of January. Chat to you then.